My Top 6 Destination

Sebagai orang yang suka jalan-jalan (dan day-dreaming), barusan aku menghayal buat bisa jalan-jalan keluar negeri...

Basically, any country will do. I prefer outside Asia, to be honest. The one whose first language is English because I certainly will be damned if I go to a country which language I couldn't speak??? But recently I've been thinking about these particular country with certain destination and I would die if I could really go to any-if possible, ALL-of these places.

Sooooo without any further do, this is my top 6 list!

This picture is not rated based on my most wanted to the least one. Simply because I just wanted to arrange it that way???

1. New York City

Siapa sih yang gak pengen ke New York City? Concrete jungle where dreams are made of, kalo kata mbak Alicia. Sebenernya aku bakal selalu pengen ke Amerika. Dulu jaman SMP waktu masih ada 90210, aku pengen banget jadi sosialita di Beverly Hills. Tapi abis itu aku menemukan HIMYM.....gimana aku ga jatuh cinta sama NYC with Ted rambling about Empy and all the perks of being a New Yorker and stuffs. If I eventually step my foot on New York, certainly the first place that I will visit is Times Square!!! Mungkin aku kedengeran kaya alay-alay yang baru pertama kali ke Monas ya tapi rasanya kalo kita ada di Times Square itu bener-bener kaya....melting pot? Semua orang ada disana dari segala suku ras agama gender, you name it. Besides, with all of the buildings, we could be reminded of how small we are compared to the world. #deepaf

Terus abis dari Times Square aku mau ke SoHo buat nyobain Georgetown Cupcake setelah selama ini cuma nontonin reality show nya doang :p

2. Derby, Australia

Mungkin kalian bertanya-tanya, kenapa ga ke Sydney, Perth, or any famous Australia city. As you can see at the grid, that is Baobab Tree. Itu pohon yang legendanya, karena dia itu pohon yang sombong di khayangan, jadi dia dicabut terus dibuang ke Bumi. Eh pas sampe Bumi malah ketanem kebalik gitu, jadi dahannya itu kaya akar. Jadi aku pertama kali tau pohon Baobab ini di sebuah novel, pada novel yang sama dimana aku dapet nama Lolita. If you're my 10th grade friend, you must be know how lunatic I am about this trilogy.

I think I just need to see this tree with my bare eyes before I die. Katanya sih di Indonesia juga ada. Tapi yang paling tua dan populasi alaminya itu ada disini??? I don't know. 

(Ya, segampang itu hidupku dipengaruhi film dan novel gimana aku ga jadi kaya gini coba ok bye)

3. London

Who can resist English accent? Duh, like obviously, siapa yang ga pengen ke London? With all of its destination, the vibes (biarpun kata orang Inggris asli, vibes disana itu ga bagus but what do I know? aku ga pernah kesana:' hiks), the accent, duh-oh guyss do I have to explain more?

Lagian Conan pernah berubah jadi Shinichi pas lagi di London. (LAH TERUS) (tuh kan dipengaruhi hal fiktif lagi)

4. Santorini, Greece

I used to rave more about France than Greece. I don't know why when searching this countries, France didn't make it on the top 6. Lately I've been dreaming soooooo much about Greece. Di awali dari postingan Path seorang teman yang liburan Spring Break tahun lalu ke Yunani and I was thinking, "leh uga nih" but that's it. Lalu tiba-tiba 3 minggu yang lalu ada tugas buat bikin paper tentang perekonomian negara lain and I was thinking, "kenapa ga Yunani? mereka baru aja dideklarasikan bangkrut but I think their fine already so I must've had a lot to talk about" dan along the way pas lagi cari bahan di Google, muncullah image-imagenya dan OMG it's so beautiful......I don't know if it's just me being a basic-universe-girl or what but I think the universe is conspire against something here.

5. Gangga River, India

Jadi sebenernya tadi aku ngetik di google dengan spesifik, sungai gangga. Tapi gambar yang muncul tidak layak pajang so I downloaded the Taj Mahal picture instead. India will be the destination that I and my parents will visit together. Semoga aku ada kesempatan, umur, kesehatan dan rejeki buat mengajak orangtuaku ke negara asal agamaku because yeah I just kinda want to.

6. Osaka, Japan

Dulu males banget sebenernya kalo ditawarin ke Asia, apalagi yang bahasa dan hurufnya aku ga ngerti. Kaya waktu SMA padahal ada tawaran exchange ke Korea tapi aku mikir, "well, I don't like KPOP, I can't speak the language, jadi kenapa maksa?" Padahal setelah dipikir-pikir, lumayan banget kalo ke Korea dengan biaya yang waktu itu ditawarin sama sekolah. Yha knp ngomongin Korea coba-_-

Jadiiii aku pengen ke Jepang karena...........ada Universal Studio yang ada Harry Potternya!!!! Because I am THAT Potterhead :)) aku tau kok I probably spend the rest of my day there because you know kan that I am not an ammusement-park-type of girl. Tapi demi Harry Potter ku rela deh :')

Ohya, aku juga mau liat bunga sakura live di Jepang tapi ku juga mau kesana pas winter biar ada salju??? omg I am so paradoxical I'm gonna die confuse.

That probably will be on the top of my list for all time. Sebenernya aku agak takut ngepost ini because I don't wanna jinx it like I did to my 2015's resolution. But I don't care. If I am ready to share it with the world then I have to work my ass off to make that happened so I am not ashamed! On the other hand, I don't really set a goal that I have to visit these countries before I *insert activity/age here* because I simply didn't want to give pressure to my self and I want to lower my expectation. Remember expectation leads to disappointment??? And life has enough pressure already I don't want to miss the fun of being alive just because I have to live based on society standards or stuff. Been there, done that. Didn't bring me any good, though.

And oh, I wanna post more about my travelling experience on this blog. I actually planned to post my Malang trip, my Sukabumi trip and all but God I am a big-fat-procrastinator who eventually post about my menye menye story because I am sensitive like that.  Hopefully this year I could travel more than I used to because my college life is.....1 and a half-year to go? After that I will work all the time and sure enough will not have the time to travel.

"wherever you go becomes a part of you somehow", Anita Desai-

Sandya

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First Impression Shopping at Zalora

As an online-shopping addict, I quite surprise myself that this is my first experience shopping at Zalora....I know right....

So, I actually bought this stuff around Christmas and the package was arrived at December 30-if I'm not mistaken. I've been intended to make a post about this but life happens. Better late than never, eh?

I bought three items from the web; two sandals from Zalora and Something Borrowed and a bag from Something Borrowed. The best part is, I only paid for Rp. 318,999 for all of those items! Thank you year-end sale :p

outer look of the boxes

The first thing I wanna talk about is my Zalora sandals. I am so sorry that I forgot to take a picture of how it actually looks like outside the dust-bag. It just a simple sandals with basic straps and everything-nothing really stands out actually. I just really need this kind of sandals if I wanted to go to the mall but too lazy to wear flats or heels but I know if I'm going out with my Havaianna's sandals people will just thing that I just go out of bed.

I chose the beige one because it fits with any color and it actually looks good on my skin. I haven't used it for a long walk but I am pretty sure that it's also comfortable. My size is 41, which is probably the second best thing about shopping at Zalora-because they provide big sizes!

Zalora-Metal Ring Flat Sandals

 I think I have to give a special shout-out to its packaging. I love their black-dope box. The dust-bag also printed with "Zalora" sign which makes it become more exclusive. The moment I opened the package I just fallin love with this packaging <3

The second thing I bought is also a sandal from Something Borrowed. It is a strap sandals with three colors; black, white, and gold. I've been looking for a strap sandals but before this I just found it in platforms or heels, and I hate being even taller than I already am. So when I saw this sandals, I just know that I have to own this babe :))

I have this baby in size 41 also. I don't know whether it is the brand or the model but I think the Zalora one is bigger than this..... Fortunately it still fits me *phew*

Something Borrowed-Tri Colored Slingbag Sandal

You might notice that the dust bag is thinner than the Zalora's. I don't really mind as long as they still protect my sandals. The box also less prettier than the Zalora's. I directly throw the box since it only takes another room on my storage. Sorry :((

I have tons of black bags.... All of my bags here are small-sling bag.... I don't really know why I bought this one :' But I don't regret it because it looks shooo cute <3 The leather is so soft but thick at the same time. The inner part also made from good fabric. They also put a zipper inside so if you forget to close the clip, your bag will not left opened and still be secure.

One thing that I feel bad is that they didn't put a brand-tag inside the bag. I also worry about the clip but hopefully I am wrong-so far it doesn't stuck or anything. I think it's just me :/

I actually looking for a bigger bag-a hand bag with a long strap, to be precise. This bag only fit my phone, my ipod, powerbank, and purse. If I want to bring another thing, I think I should change my bag-_- but still this one worth to buy also!!! I would be regretting my decisions if I left this bag on the web :p

Something Borrowed-Round Stud Mini Trapeze

That's it! My first-and sure won't be the last-haul on Zalora. I am looking forward to the chance to buy its clothing collection but my account really need a rest because last year I shop like craaaaayyyzeh.

I love that Zalora gives us so much ease at once. No shipping fee for purchase more than Rp. 200,000; the shipping and payment method that we can choose; thousands product from clothes, pants, skirts, dresses, sandals, heels, flats, boots, watches, bags, from various brands. Not to mention about their sale because their sale going on all year! I am very sure that I will shop again anytime near in the future :p

much luv-



Sandya

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Ocehan Subuh Ini

Gue bangun pagi (oke, siang) ini tanpa mengetahui kalau hari ini bakal jadi hari yang mentally-drained banget buat gue.

Dimulai dari bangun siang tadi. Padahal gue rencana mau bangun jam 6, jogging, nyuci dan beberes kamar, bikin peer, lalu lanjut nonton futsal karena udah janji. Skip 4 kegiatan pertama. Bangun-bangun udah terang, lalu gue lanjut bebaring sambil main hape, mandi, lalu berangkat nonton futsal.

Oke dari jaman gue SMA entah kenapa gue ngerasa kalo kelas gue tanding futsal dan gue nonton.....pasti kalah wakakak dan gara2 itu gue jadi suka jiper sendiri kalo mau nontonin temen tanding (pertandingan apapun itu) karena gue takut bawa somekind of badluck..... Nonsense sih tapi BENERAN KEJADIAN!!!! Temen gue cedera, organda gue kalah.... Lalu gue janji dalam hati kalo gue gamau nonton futsal organda lagi:"

Perlu kalian ketahui kalo gue lagi menjalani "detox" dari seseorang yang gue suka tapi gue putuskan untuk not worth fighting for? Ya kalian ngerti lah siapa. Jadi sebenernya gue males banget ketemu dia karena gue ngerasa belum bisa memantain perasaan sendiri. Cuma ga sengaja kemaren itu gue ketemu dia di tempat roti bakar (yha dari sekian banyak tempat roti bakar di Bintaro and we both choose the same place) jadi gue mikir yaudah detox gue udah gagal. Gapapa deh besok gue nonton dia di tempat futsal sekalian gue nemenin seorang temen gue yang pengen liat senior main. Okelah.

Long story short gue sebenernya mau ngasi dia teh botol. Tapi ego Aquarius gue terlalu dominan! Gue gengsi berat dan pada akhirnya teh botol yang udah gue maksud dibeliin buat dia, gue bawa pulang dan minum sendiri.....sedih ga? Nggak juga sih-_-

Terus lanjut kan gue nemenin temen gue yg bm banget sama mi aceh. Kebetulan dia ini senior gue di SMP dan SMA. So kita kaya flashback gitu ngomongin anak-anak eksis jaman kami bocah dulu. Kadang gue kangen ke masa dimana kerjaan gue cuma nyinyirin anak eksis. Ga deng, mana pernah gue nyinyir sama mereka. Gue tau kok eksis ga dibawa mati. People will forget that you once belong on the top of the social pyramid, but they will never forget if you're placed number one in class.

Lanjut. Gue pulang terus diajak beli eskrim sama senior gue satu lagi. Sebenernya gue udah capek banget nih tapi berhubung gue anaknya ga enakan jadi gue iyain aja. Gue lupa ada peer due on monday and I haven't touch it a bit:(( nevermind. Biasalah kita ngobrol dan ngegosip ngarol ngidul. Dia ini udah gue anggep kaya kakak gue sendiri. Most of his words gue dengerin dan percaya (sumpah dia ga boleh tau ini, ntar dia geer). Entah gimana awalnya gue disuruh sama dia buat ngechat "si mantan". Hampir banget gue ngechat tp batal lagi, gue ketik terus hapus lagi. Sampe akhirnya gue ketik terus cuma gue pantengin itu hape diatas meja.....DAN DIA PENCET TOMBOL SEND!!!! Dafuq.

Otomatis gue langsung histeris dooooong. Bodo amat tempat umum, ketemu sekali ini. Like......my Aquarius ego:" padahal baru tadi siangnya gue mempertahankan gengsi, eh malemnya harga diri gue dibandrol 90% diskon sama doi. Kan anying.

Tapi gue ga kesel sih sama dia. Lebih ke ngerasa malu aja....dan sekarang chatnya gue hapus. Jadi gue gatau si mantan udah ngeread atau dipendem doang. Ga masalah. I'd rather wondering that hit by reality. Yang jelas kalo sampe besok ga dibales, gue jadi tau pintu gue buat ke dia bener bener udah tertutup dan gue harus cepet-cepet bangun dan move on. Emang sih harusnya begitu putus langsung putus but hello it's me we're talking about???

Ohya pas futsal juga gue ketemu seseorang yang kasarnya, udah gue cut juga dalam hidup gue karena selalu membuat gue insecure....gue kira kita masih bisa temenan but turns out he's not that kind of guy. He didn't even want to look at me. Jangankan ngeliat, gue nyapa duluan aja dikacangin bro berasa pecel-_- like, yaolo ini mah style putus anak sma kali. Padahal kita putus juga enggak, cuma gue dengan tegas bilang kalo the door is locked and even me myself didn't know who brings the key. Gue kira dia bakal dewasa karena dia lebih tua. Emang ya umur ga menunjukkan kedewasaan orang.

Terus gue juga abis curhat sama si senior anying kalo gue capek merantau. Tuh kan gue bilang juga apa, pasti soon gue bakal mengalami breakdown dan now is the time. Mungkin sounds lame buat kalian, tapi sekarang tuh gue ada dalam posisi yang ga punya temen deket yang deket banget di kampus. Di kos juga enggak. Jadi gue pulang tenggo, balik kos sendirian terus diem aja di kamar sendiri. Gue ngerasa kurang interaksi sama orang, gue kurang aktifitas buat pengalih perhatian. Sumpah gue ga minta pacar buat nemenin. Gue pengennya sekeluarga kecil gue diboyong ke Jakarta boleh ga?:" karena kalo disuruh tinggal settle di Bali juga terus terang aja gue ragu... Di Bali gue biasa enak, gue jadi manja, ga baik buat pribadi gue yang bentar lagi masuk 20s dan sangat perlu berkembang.

Kadang kesel juga kenapa gue dibesarkan menjadi family-girl. Disaat anak-anak muda memilih pergi sama temen-temen, gue lebih suka pergi sama keluarga (selain karena dibayarin ya) cuma makan, terus nongkrong sambil ngopi-ngopi. Disaat yang lain nginep di rumah temen, gue tiap pulang mesti banget ngerecokin mama bapak dan tidur bareng mereka.

Ah, jadi baper kan....

Positifnya, walaupun gue bilang gue capek merantau, tapi gue punya beberapa mimpi yang gue pengen banget bisa terwujud. Kalau ga tahun ini, ya dalam waktu dekat lah. Gue sadar bentar lagi gue berumur 20 tahun(guys notice dong kalo ini kode #hopeless), gue bener-bener capek sama drama percintaan lyk for R34Lzzzz. 20s gue udah dijatahkan buat "gagal", walopun gue mikir gue mungkin bakal susah gagal karena gue orangnya gamau buat mengambil resiko:" dan males banget kalo fokus gue kepecah buat drama ga penting yekaaan

Kalo buat masalah cowo, gue mau memfokuskan diri buat "memantaskan" diri. Gue sadar pengen punya cowo yang paket lengkap, dan setelah mikir-mikir, gue yang sekarang nggak se-"paket lengkap" gue yang dulu. In other word, gue merasa mengalami kemunduran. So, sekarang gue memutuskan buat kembali menjadi seorang Sandya, even better!

Doakan saya ya gæs❤️-

Sandya

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How Things are Doing in The Feeling Department

Aku tau sih ini post nantinya bakal jadi postingan yang super baper...but what the hell. I need to clear things out of my head.

Semenjak awal minggu ini, aku jadi emosional AF. Not temper-kind of emotional, tapi lebih ke more sensitive one?.... I don't know. Mungkin karena kuliah yang straight 8 to 5 everyday, tugas yang menumpuk (tapi tetep ngeblog), kelas yang seminggu ini AC-nya mati (untung gue kuliahnya gratis #pamerterselubung #gratisanandproud), atau simply because aku mulai nge-cut makan dan it affects my mood? I don't know.... But what I know for sure is I got emotional waaaay easier than I usually do.

First thing first. I've been not thinking about you-know-who for God knows how long. Tapi akhir-akhir ini aku sering dengerin lagunya Adele yang All I Ask dan selalu mikir di bagian "what if I never love again?".....what if I could never love someone as much as I loved him? what if I could never found someone worthy? or worse, what if he actually the one, that he actually remembers our promise, that he only do this so we both could fully focused on our study rather than trapped into relationship drama, that he actually do this to see whether I cling to our promises or not? 3 years from the age that we promised we will get back together, what if 3 years from now he come back and said sorry? could I ever forgive him? could I ever trust him after that?

but then my conscious self answer....what if he's not? what if he just never into you that much?

well I guess I am just a fool then. I've been treated inappropriate for like....7 years and now I am thinking about back to where this was started? uh-oh.

Second. Of course, aku belum bisa move on dari D. But don't judge me, that is a different case from the case above. It just....I feel bad. I feel that I am such a jerk to him. No one could understand why I still hold onto him. Pernah gak sih kamu ngerasa unloved for such a long time sampai pada akhirnya kamu percaya kalau memang gak akan ada orang yang bisa mengerti kamu. Salahnya, dia datang disaat seperti itu. Tau gak apa yang aku lakukan? I pushed him away. Aku selalu merasa kalau dia itu cuma "persinggahan". Aku tau, karena kita memiliki keyakinan yang berbeda, kita gak akan pernah bisa sama-sama. Aku masih terlalu naif, aku cuma cewek umur 17 tahun yang bodoh saat itu. Aku memperlakukan dia seenaknya, yang sebenernya pada awal hubungan kami, dia sangaaaaat sabar. Kita sering berantem, itu jelas. Deep down I believe, itu cuma karena aku selalu mencari celah buat bilang "this relationship will never work". Ternyata bener, omongan itu adalah doa.

Mungkin orang-orang kira aku gak bisa move on karena dia ganteng, gaul, kaya, and sparkling shit like that. Tapi enggak. Dia itu....sayang sama aku disaat aku bahkan ga bisa sayang sama diriku sendiri. Dia tau porsi yang pas buat romantis without seems sappy at all. Dia selalu berusaha membuat aku percaya kalo aku worth more, tapi aku selalu menolak untuk percaya. Man, panggilan sayangnya buat aku aja "item" tapi itu tuh sama sekali nggak bikin aku ngerasa worthless. Gimana mau ngerasa worthless kalo dia bilangnya selalu pake lope-lope di udara? (oke ini komik banget). Dia gak pernah protes mau aku gendutan, dia juga gak jejeritan seneng kalo aku kurusan. Tau gak sih buat orang yang kadar insecurenya setinggi aku, hal itu tuh penting banget. Bahkan dia yang kaya gitu aja masih bikin aku ngerasa insecure karena ngerasa gak pantes buat jadi pacarnya. In summation, he can do a lot better than me then why should he settle for me? Simple. Because he loved me. And I realize it a little too late.

Kalian tau gak sih jaman sekarang susah sekali buat nemu cowok yang bisa appreciate your flaws? Atau cuma cowok-cowok disekitarku aja yang gak bisa treat a girl hahahha ha ha ha *ketawasepet*. As I am typing now, someone just told me "makanya kurus dulu" after I said that I want to be as tall as Blake Lively. Aku secara jelas bilang pengen SETINGGI Blake Lively, bukan SECANTIK dia. Like totally dude, I am feeling like crap already. Do you really have to pointed it out like that? Siapa sih yang pengen keliatan gendut? Salahku kah karena terlahir dengan tulang besar dan proporsi tubuh yang besar? Believe me guys, even when I am thin, I still look big. FYI, I hate that even more than you guys.

Which brings us to the next problem....

Jadi, sebenernya aku ada suka sama seseorang. Well, I actually didn't like him at first but then I was thinking, "let's give this guy a shot." and I opened up, then I like him-or at least what he does can easily affect my mood. Long story short, people who knows us both didn't really like the idea of me falling for him. One says that he's just a regular player and he just messing out with me while the other says that he's too childish for me. I wouldn't argue with them. Tapi mereka ga mengerti gimana leganya aku bisa dekat sama orang yang seagama, satu visi on some point sama aku, SATU DAERAH SAMA AKU (this is totally pointless), dan bisa bikin aku ketawa. Cuma itu kok. Dia sering mendem chat aku, yang bikin aku selalu wondering, "am I not interested enough? is he really texting other girl like they said?" stuffs like that. Dia egois dan keras kepala, yang membuat aku mengalah waaaaay more than I've ever done with anybody else. Aku selalu jadi pihak yang egois dan dominan dalam hubugan dan sekarang aku selalu mengalah. Sebenernya aku berterima kasih untuk ini, karena dia telah mendewasakan aku somehow :)) Tapi our little talk, our phone calls, our short message....he sure knows how to put a smile on my face.

Lalu kemarin.....dia bilang aku gendut. Ya, sesimpel itu. Cuma butuh satu kalimat and I am done with him. Bukan berarti dia sebelumnya ga pernah bilang aku gendut, cuma kemarin itu aku bener-bener fed up. Aku mikir, "okay udah cukup sampe disini aja deh kayanya. I am cutting out people who make me feel less that I should be" Is that the right thing to do? Maybe yes, maybe not. Mungkin iya, kalau aku mengikuti kata hati dan "default" dari behavioral-manual ku, Mungkin tidak, my mom would be sad :p but she'll understand. Sebenernya aku cukup lega karena ada seseorang yang bilang sama aku kaya gini pas aku cerita gimana aku selalu berusaha membuat dia senang, "Kalo udah sama cowo yang disuka mah ga jadi diri sendiri juga gapapa ya asal dia seneng". So yeah people, I am back being me!

Bohong kalau aku bilang aku gak kehilangan. This moment I wondering what he's doing. Apa dia ikut mekemit? Tadi dia puasa gak? Minggu depan dia masih ada kuliah pengganti atau engga? Kemarin dia ketemu orang gila deket kontrakannya gak? Little things like that.... I miss sharing daily stories with him :))

Last thing, aku ngerasa orang-orang di sebuah organisasi yang aku ikuti sangat negatif. Seringkali mereka membuat aku merasa rendah diri. Apakah dengan membuat orang lain merasa lebih rendah lalu mereka akan merasa lebih tinggi? Begitukah cara mereka? Aku gak tau ya. Susah sekali buat merasa positif saat kamu tau bahwa mereka menilaimu sebagai orang yang lebih rendah dan negatif. Mereka tau gak sih kalau kadang mereka cuma melihat apa yang aku ingin perlihatkan kepada mereka? Mereka tau gak sih kalau hubunganku dengan Tuhan itu merupakan hubungan yang sangat personal dan mereka gak boleh menjudge aku ini-itu kalau mereka gak tau kebenarannya? Okelah aku memang bukan tipe orang yang sembahyang 3 kali sehari, aku juga bukan orang yang gak pernah melakukan kesalahan..tapi aku juga bukan pendosa, guys.

So yeah, that was pretty much how things are doing in the feeling department. A bit messy, I guess, even though this is not my period time. Sure I would figure things out-maybe after doing SIA, AKM, Cost, Makro, and PPKN assignment?

huge hugs and wet kisses-

Sandya

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The Dahmer-Dobler Theory

Pernah gak sih kamu sadar kalau perilaku kamu ke seseorang itu tergantung sama orang itu sendiri?

I mean like... pernah ga sih kamu bereaksi dengan berbeda terhadap suatu gesture yang sama, tapi berasal dari orang yang berbeda?

Well, I had just realize that I am totally that kind of girl. I react differently based on who give some particular movement to me. For instance, kalau ada seseorang yang enggak aku suka dan dia ternyata ngesave fotoku, I will be like, "WHOA, total creep alert!". Tapi coba aja yang ngesave itu orang yang aku suka, pasti aku bakal mikir, "aw shoooo sweet he's totally into me". 

Atau misalnya seperti ini: pada dasarnya, I am a total hopeless romantic, like suuuuuper hopeless and very romantic (in my own way). Dan aku ga peduli biarpun orang sering bilang ga suka dibawain bunga lah, mending dikasi barang lain lah. Nope. I am that basic. Aku sukaaaaaa banget dikasi bunga. Atau setidaknya, defaultnya begitu. Tapi coba aja kamu itu orang yang ga aku suka, beuhh, siap-siap ya bunganya aku kembaliin! In fact, aku pernah buang bunga yang dikasi seseorang ke tempat sampah bahkan didepan orangnya. Fun fact: he is the one that I can't get rid of my mind for like...6 years? (if you read this and I know you won't, I am sooo sorry). So basically, biarpun aku bilangnya aku bakal suka dikasi bunga kalau sama orang yang tepat, uh-oh, not really babe. Kamu ga akan bisa menebak aku, sayang.

Loh kok jadi curhat?....

The point is, sebenernya tadi aku keinget The Dahmer-Dobler Theory.

Ini teori gatau legit apa engga....tapi setelah aku pikir-pikir ada benernya juga sih. I discovered this theory based on my all time favorite series, HIMYM. 

Jadi katanya, kalau dua orang saling suka satu sama lain, maka sebuah gesture romantis itu bakal terlihat wajar-wajar aja (I actually forgot which one the Dahmer or the Dobler.....), tapi kalau misalnya cuma salah satu doang yang suka, that so-called-romantic gesture bakal terlihat menyeramkan. Hence, seperti yang aku bilang tadi, kalau misalnya ada orang yang kamu suka stalking kamu dan dengan sengaja ngesave foto-fotomu, kamu pasti bakal mikir dia itu romantis banget! Tapi kalo misalnya yang berbuat kaya gitu bukan orang yang kamu suka, well pasti kamu mikir kalo dia itu such a creepy stalker! Jangan-jangan fotonya disave buat diguna-guna.....kan serem juga.

One piece of advice yang anehnya, sangat sering aku keluarkan akhir-akhir ini; ketauilah apakah orang yang kamu suka itu juga suka sama kamu.

Make sure you both are on the same page. Jangan sampai dia cuma bersikap baik sama kamu dan kamu sudah mengartikan hal itu sebagai sesuatu yang berbeda. Kalau kamu merasa dia ada perasaan yang sama, barulah kalian berjuang. Tapi jangan sampai kalian memperjuangkan orang yang gak mau diperjuangkan. Dude I was like, EW! Kalian para wanita juga, jangan maunya menang banyak. Kalau emang ga suka sama seseorang, be bold! Jangan iya-engga, jangan berdiri di grey area. Yang paling penting, jangan memanfaatkan cowok-cowok itu buat jadi safety net kalian; you girls who will be jumping on that net everytime you needed to. Kalian ga suka di php-in tapi kalian sendiri ga tegas karena ga mau kehilangan fans? Uh, karma doesn't work that way, darling.

Then boys if you've already know that you both want the same thing, than fight for her. Kadang cewe juga suka ga mau gitu sih.....tapi hati-hati! Wanita kadang emang licik seperti ular; mereka pura-pura hard to handle and push you away, tapi guys itu semua hanya ujian! Kalau kalian menyerah, uh-oh you probably lost the girl of your dream. Tapi sekali lagi, berjuang ada batasnya bro! Kalau kalian merasa jerih-payah kalian tidak dihargai, ya tau diri aja sih ya....buat apa juga buang-buang waktu? Mending sama saya #lha #obral

Kesimpulannya, no matter how big or romantic your gesture is, there will be some people who will not appreciate it and call you a creep anyway... You just have to find the one who found that the effort that you've done is worth to be appreciated. AND replied too ;p

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PS: buat calon suamiku, ngapain sih romantis-romantis sama dia? You'll end up with me anyway~

PPS: buat pacarnya calon suamiku, makasih ya udah jagain dia. Tapi inget aja, sebaik apapun kamu jagain dia, he'll end up with me eventually :p

PPPS: kalo calon suamiku lagi jomblo sekarang....belajar yang rajin ya sayang, mau kamu masih kuliah atau udah kerja. Emang sih kecerdasan anak diwariskan dari kromosomku, tapi aku butuh pendamping hidup yang pinter beb. Kalo kamu ga pinter, nanti siapa yang ngajarin aku life-hacks atau ngasi tau stupidly-unimportant trivia pas aku lagi gabut?

tired (and crazy) after 3 straight days of 8am to 5pm lecture (and still counting)-

Sandya

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