Happy Father's Day!

People say that today is Father's Day but I have no idea that the "Father's Day" was actually exsisted ._.

So, to celebrate this day, I would like to tell you a brief introduction about my dad.

Fortunately I have this amazing guy as my father. He is extremly smart (I adore his level of intelegence) which pretty much the reason why I fall in love soooooo easily with smart guys (please pardon my weakness)
He has the same zodiac as me, we both Aquarians. So, we're pretty much alike:D
He know exactly that we're similar, that's why when I start to worry about the lecture that I don't understand, he always told me that we have the same level of intelegence. Back then on his college year, he was never study yet he could graduated with quite impressive mark. That is why he always convinced me that I can do a lot better than he had done. He also the one who pump-up my confidence with these words, "Kalau Sakdek aja gak bisa, coba bayangkan berapa banyak orang juga yang lebih gak bisa"

He also the one who told me to drink Sterilized Milk, when I got laryngitis after my orientation week. I almost run out of my antibiotics, and he knew that I don't really like to consume medicine unless I really have to. So, he told me to drink sterilized milk. I once ever drank that milk but i hate it because it taste plain. Then I push myself and think, at least this milk taste better and healtier than consuming more tablets of medicine. It only need one bottle to make me better, and I told my dad. He just laughed and said, "we have pretty much the same body condition. That is why I knew you'd get better after drink that milk, because it did the same to my body."

Look how similar we looked

My mom said that he is not romantic. At all. Indeed, I agree. But once he did something romantic, it will be beyooooooooooooond sweet :">

 

The picture above is the example. That was all flowers that I received on my sweet 17th bday surprise last year (can't believe it has already a year!). Guess who gave me the biggest bucket? My father. When I complained about how it wasted on a bucket of flower that will eventually rot, instead of something that will last for longer time, he just said, "I know you love it when people gave you flower. So I bought the biggest one to show you that even there will be a man you love or any man that will love you later on, still I will be the man who love you the most" PAK YOU BRING IT TO THE WHOLE NEW LEVEL!! (btw I knew he was reffered to the white rose bucket over there, tho :p)

As long as I remembered, there was one time that he disappoint me. It just happend last year. The first time I came back from Jakarta to have my holiday at home. It was December, when people was busy with close-book thingy and my dad is the one who responsible for his whole bureau. I barely saw him at home: he went to office before I woke up in the morning and came back home late at night when I have already felt asleep. I was upset. I think how could he done this to me when I rarely be at home and experienced the moment with family.

The peak was at the new-year-eve. He was at office, having another extra-hour. I was at home just with my mom and my sister. I was offered having a new-year eve with my friend but I refuse because I knew it would sadden my mom. Besides, I had quite a fight with my, ekhm, current boyfie, so I just want to stay at home. So, the 2014 new-year eve was a bad night-probably the worst new-year eve I've experienced-but I have no idea that 2014 will be such a blessed year to me:))

But quietly, he wrote a note that convey his deepest apologize. I remember that specifically he said he was sorry for not being able to be home with his family, especially with me who just came back from Jakarta... omg I'm teary now:'

"tinggi BESAR ya kaya bapaknya" -> the most frequent line I've heard from people, yet I hate the most-_-

Last weekend he finally visit me after he promised a visit to me after my orientation week. He picked me at campus then take me to hotel before he took me to bookstore and bought me a looooot of books and remind me how I used to spend all of my money in bookstore which result on my myopia now._. and he keep asking me "udah segitu aja?" or "hayo mau beli apa lagi?" even after he took me to my favourite boutique. 

Once we arrived at hotel, he asked me to make him a coffee then we talked about a lot of thing. About college and, ehm, love. 

I told him about the dreams that I had; about my insecurities I had at college-how people constantly study with no break while they're....I dont know how to say "Putra-Putri pilihan bangsa" in English-then he told me he won't and never see the end result; as long as I am trying and staying.

I don't know where it came from when he suddenly asked, "kata mama ada anak *insert famous specialization here* ngedeketin ya" Well, I knew that my mom will be bocor but I never thought that my dad will ask me.
(Oh no, I remember a few days after the broke up with *you know who* he called me and said "katanya udah putus ya? Belum juga sempat cerita sama bapak kok udah putus aja. Makanya sekali-kali curhat sama bapak dong biar liat dari perspektif cowo")
I told him that mom said No to that guy because he has similar personality with "the love of my life" and she's afraid that he will hurt me too. Then suddenly he said that "the love of my life" was definetely a BIG NO. "Tapi dengan alasan yang berbeda dari mama, bapak juga gak setuju sebenernya kalo sakdek sama dia. Pertama...blablabla" I don't really gave a damn since I knew he's not worth the fight AND I SHOULD'VE REALIZED THAT FUCKING 6 YEARS AGO but late is better than never tho.
He also asked me about.....who should we called him.....the law guy?.....
I should let him go, because if only he's not the son of my uncle, he will definetely out of the list "Kalau aja dia bukan anaknya Iwak, dia juga udah dicoret dari list. Kalau memang dia gentle dia harusnya bilang ke Sakdek, 'Dik kayanya kita gak bisa deh lebih dari sekarang, sepertinya lebih enak sodara aja' atau apa kek. Dan bapak gak percaya Sakdek bisa jatuh cinta sama orang yang cuma ketemu beberapa kali, bahkan cuma ketemu tanpa ngobrol, kalau bukan karena Sakdek pengen berbakti sama orangtua, termasuk sama Iwaknya."......and it hits me. Sebenernya kenapa aku bisa suka banget sama dia? Indeed, we just met twice and the second time we met I ONLY CURI CURI PANDANG FROM DISTANCE OMG fucking pride and ego please go (hey it rhymes!)
Then he also asked about his post-graduate friend's son who my mom said asked about me. I didn't have the guts to say anything, afraid of what he will said or reacted.


The point is, when it came to boys, dad can be pretty scare. Especially my dad, I warned you (note to my future boyfriend husband-wannab, brace yourself) *nowplaying: Magic!-Rude*

He was, still, will, and always have been the king of my heart <3

He is imperfect, yes I know that. He might be pain in the ass sometimes. He has done the things that he might not proud of. And there come some times when I think that he put too much expectation to me, until it scared me. But still he is the perfect father to me. If I could have the chance to have a better dad I would say no because in my eyes he is the most perfect one to me.

I want to emphasize here that, indeed, a father will be his daugther first love and the standard of how he will assess boys in her life.
Unfortunately and fortunately, I have this best dad in the world so I have difficulties to find the similar-if not exact or better- man to him. Kalau bisa sih sampe kastanya juga sama #eh #sumpahkodekeras




Happy Father's Day, Bapak-
kisskiss,

Sandya